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Dealing with dying

PostPosted: Thu Jun 08, 2006 9:28 pm
by madmax_00uk
I agree with Bugs and I have not had to deal with subject yet so dont really know what to say. I know that I will miss certain members of my family when they do pass on.

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 08, 2006 11:09 pm
by Big Bopper Bart

Thanx for the nice comments guys,Heres my dad and brother after he won officer or should i say 'Bronze'of the year in my town.My dad was just diagnosed with Cancer at the time of this pic'not right at this pic'but he'd been told of the bad news already is what I'm trying to say.anyway We finally buried my Dad today at the cemetary.he wished to be cremated so we put his earn or however you spell it i a box with some lil things we wanted to bury him with,like a rock he found in New Orleans and a wooden carving he made and a old guitar pic from me.his grave over looks the ocean which is hes in the veerans section as he fought in Vietnam and was a 20 year U.S Navy vet.


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PostPosted: Fri Jun 09, 2006 4:00 pm
by OverheadCam

Sorry Bart...this post slipped under my Radar!

Sorry for your loss I'm sure your Dad was mighty proud....of both of you!

Now's the time to look after yourself...whether you realise it or've been through a lot both mentally and physically...make sure you're eating right...and try to get some sleep and keep and eye on your family 'bout this as well!

Hang tough big fella!


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PostPosted: Fri Jun 09, 2006 10:38 pm
by Big Bopper Bart
Thanx dude,I'm watching my mom and bro like a hawk.and i'm finally starting to get some sleep tho i still am tossing and turning like a mofo.i need to take some downers.His grave is right up the road from me so i will visit it often as its also in a nice peaceful place.

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PostPosted: Wed Jun 14, 2006 4:46 pm
by Bugsgecko

Bart - you don't need to take downers mate.They'll only make you feel like shyte the next day and make everything foggy and crap.Sleep will come eventually,when you're ready-don't rush it.Grief takes it's own special time.

What you need to do is personal and only you can do - celebrate and remember your Dad in the ways that make sense to you and your family.We could give you umpteen suggestions but in the end it's what means the most to your and yours.

And Talk, Talk,Talk and Talk some more about your Dad - don't stop talking about him or his sayings or his ideas or his favourite things or your collective memories of him - even if it hurts,Talk about it coz if you don't,it clogs up your insides and rots-which isn't what your Dad wanted.Celebrate his very essence that he stamped on you while he was your Dad.

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2006 2:50 am
by Big Bopper Bart
Thanx Bugs.Image

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2006 5:55 pm
by rugar77
Bart, I Am sorry to hear about your loss. Everyone above pretty much said it all for me. A lot better than i ever could. my father passed away last september of scirrosis of the liver. he was 54. last time i saw him was in 96. he was in the hospital for 4 days and i didnt know it till 4 hours before he died because my stepmother didnt think it was important enough to call me so i didnt get to see him. her daughters boyfreind sent me an E-MAIL.can you beleive it? anyway, thats another story. he lived in keystone heights, florida and im in bristol, virginia. I wish you the very best and again im very sorry about your loss. Best regards. Chuck

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PostPosted: Fri Jun 16, 2006 4:14 am
by Big Bopper Bart
Chuck,I lived in Keystone Hights Fl. back in 89.has it grown up any?it was i town stright outta Deliverance when I was ther lol.and sorry to hear bout your dad.and thanx for the support on mine.